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Unmasking the Distortion:

I had started this entry with what I thought was a clear idea of what I was going to write. As if I ever need more “proof” that I am being guided by forces greater than myself, I got it again half way through my original ranting. What began as a discussion on spiritual narcissism veered off into a totally different topic - distorted masculinity. I‘m intentionally NOT going to say “toxic masculinity” because that, to me, holds too much energy of male-bashing, and that’s got nothing to do with what I’m talking about. Something is changing, very strongly, throughout the collective. I know that I am not the only one who feels it - not by a mile. As we enter into a new Age, there is a call coming from the Universe that we ALL find balance, let go of fear, and understand what it means to choose love.


"The Old Ones say the Native American women will lead the healing among the tribes. Inside them are the powers of love and strength given by the Moon and the Earth. When everyone else gives up, it is the women who sings the songs of strength. She is the backbone of the people. So, to our women we say, sing your songs of strength; pray for your special powers; keep our people strong; be respectful, gentle, and modest. -Village Wise Man, Lakota"


For centuries we have been living in an increasingly male-dominated society. Remember, we all have both masculine and feminine energies within us, so this is not a post about what is wrong with men. Before we became patriarchal dominant, there was a matriarchal dominant society that was equally unbalanced. The Universe DEMANDS balance, so when an imbalance becomes too much, energetic shifts must occur to restore balance. So it is within ourselves and our collective consciousness. We are entering the Age of Aquarius (yes THAT Age of Aquarius) - Aquarius being the Zodiac sign of woman. There is no denying that the misogynistic culture is being challenged as we've never witnessed before.


From 7th Grade, thru my Junior year in high school, I attended an all-girls school. I was inundated with the mantras of how women are just as good as men, women can do ANYTHING they want to in life, blah blah blah. Am I saying this isn‘t true? Of course not. We all have the capacity to reach our highest potential, and regardless of gender some of us excel in some areas and some in others. The problem is that even the “feminist movement” is drowning in the same energy of distorted masculinity. This distorted masculine energy, in turn, must include distorted feminine energy. The Women’s Movement sought to reject all things “male”, but the way they organized that fight back was in a very masculine stance, still based on the belief that masculinity has anything to do with dominance or control, hence the distortion continues.


As a whole, our society has been programmed to believe that true displays of masculinity (”a real man is...“) are defined by how much power - social and personal dominance - they display. “Real men“ exert control OVER others and are generally misogynistic pricks. We can see that even in the Spiritual Community in the distorted belief (most prevalent in the 1960’s and ‘70’s, but still very much abundant today) that it’s the “divine masculine” that is going to somehow enlighten and “allow” the Divine Feminine to “emerge”. While the concept may be based in a positive ideology, that belief is totally backwards. Men are not capable of birthing anything!!!! Least of all the divine feminine within ANY woman. Once again we are staring at the distorted masculine belief - the culturally accepted belief of what it means to be a man and how it has so dangerously effected all of us. It has created heartbreaking distortions - in the ways men and women view themselves AND each other.


Distorted masculinity is the ROOT behind physical, mental, spiritual, and emotional trauma in the majority of human beings on this planet. Almost every person has been effected in some way. The more devastating consequences being assault (sexual and non-sexual), addiction, greed, terrorism, homophobia, bullying, depression, sexual objectification, and the list goes on. And again, it’s not JUST in the behaviors of our male counterparts, it happens in women as well. While boys are taught to “man up”, “soldier on”, ”don’t be such a pussy”, or “show her who’s boss”, girls are taught to “sit and look pretty”, “know your place”, “don’t act too smart”, “that’s a dyke sport” and now it has shifted even to use your sexuality to control a man. You see where this goes. Both boys and girls grow up with these culturally expected “norms” and if they don’t fall into the proper definitions for their gender what results is self-loathing, believing there must be something inherently “wrong” with them, and an endless cycle begins. These cycles usually wind up with life-long issues with depression, anxiety, drug/alcohol/sex addiction and more. Trauma that goes unresolved and those teenagers turn into adults with untreated PTSD or worse. It’s no wonder the Universe is demanding now that we shift our collective consciousness. If you’re sensitive to energy, you’re not just feeling it, you’re feeling the FORCE behind it. In Tarot, that energy is represented by the Tower - a card that literally means destruction resulting from an un